About us

Queer south asian women – brown, beautiful and intelligent – live, work and play everywhere, just as successfully as anyone else. But in sri lanka we do have one problem that’s entirely unique to us: we can’t walk our own streets. Women in sri lanka – straight or queer – can rarely walk unconcerned on the road. Young men and boys constantly sneer and mock at us for no reason except that we are women. And we’re on the street. And street language uses aappa gahanawa – or ‘cooking hoppers’ especially to mock at lesbians, both real and perceived.

Everyone loves hoppers. Hoppers are an all-day breakfast delicacy made from fermented rice flour. Bowl-shaped thin pancakes with crisp white edges and, if you’re lucky, a sunny yellow egg in the centre. ‘Milk’ hoppers, another type, are wonderfully sweet.

And the aappathachchiya is the pan used to create hoppers.

Whatever the mocking metaphor is, it’s lost on us, although we often puzzle over it. Is it a reference to an activity or a part of the body? What do they mean? Do they even know? Here, we reclaim the word appa and celebrate it as our own.

Vak likes good food, good company, music, time alone and lesbians (not in that order). She also likes words – her most recent favourite word being ‘sapiosexual’ – and likes saying the word lesbian loudly.

Vatura loves water because it resists nothing, doesn’t understand the concept of time and always follows its own nature. She would like to retire so as to pursue her burning ambition to do nothing at all as soon as possible.

Varad was once straight but that was just a phase. Now she has a serious job that gives her the legitimacy to talk about sex and pleasure and watch people’s jaws drop. She wishes she could photograph their expressions for a living.

We are three queer sri lankan women who think.

Aappathachchiya is our blog.

17 responses

15 10 2009

I had trouble in reading your blog name. First I thought it’s Sinhala and ignored it (the PC I was using didn’t have Sinhala installed). The name is very apt, but since you are online and online is global (and that you should think global) I wish you had a universal name. “aappa thachchiya” is quite a mouthful, eh?

16 10 2009

we’re very attached to our name. but many thanks for reading and comments!

29 10 2009
mani boi

lol ws jus readn thrgh…interestn…i skold at an international skol…lol u knw those posh ones in colombo 7…n readn ur blogs remind me of my homo frnds..lol no offence oi…evry 1 hs dif opinions na…lol neways gud stuf n kp it goin…oh btw u soo aint lyk e typical sl kella’s na…oh n sowi dt my sinhala is as bad as ur french… jus wntd to voice my opinion…hw cm mst women in sl think its so kewl to hv an attitude…lol aint it such a pity??? i mn u go ne whr…coffe bean r whr..u c dis chik walk acros…n dude..thy think thy r on e moon…lol so hate e women in cmb…lol oh wna kit rblingbling@yahoo.com

P.S. lol hrdly find e tym to b blogn

31 10 2009

excuse me, can you translate that comment into english. thanks!!

7 11 2009

This is wonderful girls, I like this blog. Oh Sri Lankan QUEER women are very smart.

24 11 2009

Exactly ;-D

24 01 2010

very, very interesting blog.

8 03 2010

I’m actually from a Sri Lankan background myself, despite growing up in Australia and not actually being able to understand more than a word here and there when my parents are talking.
But I can relate to how you feel- my parents aren’t very open to new ideas and would completely freak out if I or my brother ever turned out to be gay. They’re freaked out enough by my interest in feminism. It doesn’t really seem to be a culture that promotes tolerance and open-mindedness.

6 06 2010

You go, girls! I hope the day soon comes when you can walk down the street without being sneered at. People can be so incredibly small-minded. 😦

Anyway, you’ve got a fascinating blog. 🙂

23 06 2010

you ladies seem very bold, and your blog is very interesting! I can’t wait to read more. 🙂

8 08 2010

Wow, some more visitors from Sri Lanka to my blog now, queer women at that, I am honored or what.. Great meeting you guys 🙂

Thanks for th comment on my blog, you were right, I did forget Buzz.

26 03 2011

May I ask you something?
I feel like as Im a lesbian.
How we find a lesbian in Sri Lanka?

I never had sex with anybody. But I want to meet a lesbian.

12 06 2011

came across your blog quite randomly. Intend to read it, once my exams are done. Interesting your posts are 🙂 Best of luck

27 06 2011

Just now came across your blog and I must as a guy that you are very brave to live as homosexuals in a back water place SL.

Also dont take this in the wrong way but real straight men find lesbians hot and also easy to get along with. Believe me, if guys keep dissing you for choosing a different way of life, always remember that these same men have a whole assortment of sexual problems.

Not all of us are homophobes, even the young ones and not all of us live in the middle ages. remember that there are people in SL that support homosexuality. 🙂

27 06 2011

Thank you b5725252! I hope more and more people in Sri Lanka not only support but also celebrate the contribution that homosexuals and other minorities bring to society… varad.

27 11 2011

hey ladies, been reading your blog ever since i stumbled upon it. really missing the new entries…. why have you guys stopped posting???? Please keep writing, you have a gift.. and you have a following in Colombo with us and also abroad… keep writing….! will keep checking back here for new stuff 🙂

28 11 2011

Respect! Very nice work! keep writing.

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