Rape and sexual harassment are not compliments doled out only to the beautiful and alluring. They are an extreme form of bullying, and they can, tragically, happen to anyone.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/mar/30/rape-is-not-a-compliment?INTCMP=SRCH
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That was a very interesting article, and the comments are even more interesting! Rape is more about power and control than about desire. Think about ‘corrective’ rape of lesbians…
Hadley is off-base, in my view.