The romance of single life

19 05 2010

When you are one half of a couple for a long time, you forget what it is like to be with yourself. Only with yourself. When you start off, you are caught up with being a couple, spending time with the new girlfriend, the romance, the passion, the dreams.

Then you settle into the groove of being one half of a couple and enjoy the routine, the stability and the togetherness. Even the arguments and making up. Even the little separations, as long as you don’t stay apart too long.

And when you break up, you miss the shared laughter and the inside jokes. You miss the other part of yourself. You miss her weight next to you in bed and your life has a gap.

It’s like silence. Everyone rushes to fill silence in, just the way we want to fill that gap, find someone to laugh and spend time with. But hold on long enough, and one day you blink and realise that being alone is not that bad.

Actually, what a relief it is to be able to suddenly meet a friend and decide to spend the whole day with her. No rushing back home because you think tenderly of your girlfriend waiting for you. No phone calls to reassure her that you haven’t disappeared or had an accident, you just thought you would watch a film with your cousins. And how nice to not have to get out of bed, read as much as you want and not feel selfish about spending your time with yourself. How nice.

It’s not sour grapes. It’s just that I had forgotten how much I love spending time with myself as much as I love being with a woman I love.



4 responses

19 05 2010

There is truth in the saying “first love yourself, only then can you love another”. In the same way, i do believe if you can be happy on your own, then you can be happy with another or without! enjoy!

20 05 2010

Oh yes, I definitely agree that there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. But however happy you are with spending alone-time when IN a relationship, it is not the same as being alone when OUT of a relationship, don’t you think?

20 05 2010

It’s nice, that time you spend rediscovering yourself.

16 06 2010

So much navel gazing! Bleh.

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